HAIZIJIUSHIFUMUDEJINGZI;HAIZISHIJIAOCHULAIDE,BUSHISHUOCHULAIDE;JIAOYUHAIZIZUIJIHUI“JI”。ZAIGUANYUHAIZIJIAOYUZHEIJIANSHIERSHANG,YUNNANSHENGKUNMINGSHIQIDIANXUEXIAODAIXIAOZHANGDEZHEIJITIAOJIANYIZHONGKENERZHUANYE,ZHIDEJIAZHANGYIDU。
建议一 孩子就是父母的镜子,镜子里看到的就是自已。
YIGEYOUXIUDEHAIZI,BEIHOUYOUYIGEHUOZHEJIGEYOUXIUDEJIAZHANGHEJIAOSHI,YIGE“WENTI”HAIZIBEIHOUYOUYIGEHUOJIGEYOU“WENTI”DEJIAZHANGHEJIAOSHI。
WOMENTONGCHANGZAIJIAOYU“WENTI”HAIZISHIBAZHONGDIANFANGZAIHAIZISHENSHANG,QISHIYINGGAIBAZHONGDIANFANGZAIJIAZHANGHEJIAOSHISHENSHANG。YAORANGHAIZIYOUXIU,JIUYAOPEIYANGYOUXIUDEJIAOSHIHEJIAZHANG,MEIYOUYOUXIUDEJIAOSHIHEJIAZHANGSHIBUKENENGPEIYANGCHUYOUXIUDEHAIZIDE。
JIAZHANGYAOYISHIDAO:NIBUSHIPINGWEI,BUSHIGUANZHONG,NIDEHAIZIDE“YOU”YU“BULIANG”SHIYOUNIDEYUANYINYINQIDE。YAOXIANGRANGHAIZICHAOHAODEFANGMIANGAIBIAN,JIAZHANGSHOUXIANYAOCONGGAIBIANZIYIZUOQI。DANGRAN,GEWEIJIAZHANG、MEIWEIJIAOSHIDECHUFADIANDOUSHIHAODE,DOUXIWANGBAHAIZIJIAOYUHAO,ZHIYOUHAOXINJIASHANGHAODEBANFACAINENGBANCHUHAODESHI。YINCI,GEWEIJIAZHANGYAOXUEHUIJIAOYUHAIZIDEHAOBANFA。
建议二 孩子是教出来的,不是说出来的,更不是担心出来的。
YOUDEJIAZHANGRENWEITIANTIANDINGZHUHAIZIYAOHAOHAOXUEXIJIUSHIDUIHAIZIJIAOYULE,ZHEIZHONGGUANNIANJIUSHIBA“SHUO”DANGCHENG“JIAO”。“SHUO”ZHISHIJIAOYUDEZUIZHIJIE、ZUIGANXING、ZUIRONGYIGOUTONGDEYIZHONGFANGFA,DAN“SHUO”JUEBUSHI“JIAO”DEQUANBU,YEBINGBUDAIBIAOSHI“JIAO”。
JIAOSHI、JIAZHANGYIJIQITADEZHANGBEIDOUSHIPINFANDIYONG“SHUO”DEFANGFA,DAOZHIXIAOGUOBUMINGXIAN。SHENJIAOZHONGYUYANJIAO,HAIZIDOUXIWANGZHANGDA,YUANYINJIUSHIXIANGZHANGDACHENGWEIXIANZAIDENI——JIAZHANG。DARENMENRENWEIXUDUOSHIXIAOHAIBUKEYIZUO,ERDARENQUEKEYIZUO,DARENFEICHANGZIYOUBINGQIEYOUTEQUAN,KEYIMEIYOUYUESHU,ZUOZIYIXIANGZUODESHI。JIAZHANGWANGWANGHUIDUIHAIZIDEXUEXIYIJICHENGZHANGDANXINBUYI,ZHEIZHONGDANXINYUANYUKONGJU,DAOZHIJIAZHANGMANGMUDIQIUQUANQIUWEN,HAIZILIKAILEZIYIDESHIXIANFANWEIJIUKAISHIBUFANGXIN。YOUDEJIAZHANGWEILEBURANGZIYIDANXINDESHIQINGFASHENG,FANFUDIJIAODAI、DINGZHU,ZONGRENWEIDUOSHUOZONGSHIHAOYIDIAN,QISHIXIAOGUOSHIDEQIFAN,JIUXIANGSHAOCAISHIRENWEI“YOUDUOBUHUAICAI”,QISHIYOUDUOLEBUDAN“HUAI”CAI,ERQIE“HUAI”SHENTI。
SUIZHESHEHUIDEFAZHANJINBU,JUEDADUOSHUDEJIAZHANGBURUZIYIDEHAIZI。BUFENJIAZHANGBURENTONGZHEIGEGUANDIAN,JUEDEYOUXUDUOHAIZIBURUZIJI。WEISHENMEHUIYOUZHEIZHONGKANFA?
YISHIFUMUJINGCHANGYONGZIYIDEZHANGCHUQUBIHAIZIDEDUANCHU,BIRUZONGJUEDEXIANZAIDEHAIZIMEIYOUZIYIXIAOSHIHOUDECHIKUJINGSHEN,QISHIBUSHIHAIZIMEIYOUCHIKUJINGSHEN,ERSHIMEIYOUCHIKUJIHUI。YINCIWOMENRENWEI,WOMENDANGSHINENGCHIKU,BUSHIYOUCHIKUJINGSHEN,ERSHIMEIYOUTIANCHI。XIANZAIHAIZIBUYUANCHIKU,BUSHIMEIYOUCHIKUJINGSHEN,ERSHIMEIYOUKUCHI。
ERSHIJIAZHANGZONGSHIYIZIYICHENGZHANGDEGUOCHENGLAIPINGPANHAIZI,DANSHI,DUIYUHAIZIJINXIANLEJIEQIYANHEXING,BINGBUZHIDAOTAXINLISUOXIANG,MEIYOUZOUJINHAIZIDEXINLI,WANQUANSHIKAOCAICE,QUPANDUANDE,SUOYINIJUEDEHAIZIBURUNI。
建议三 教育孩子最忌讳“急”。好孩子是家长“熬”出来的,不是急出来的。
JIURUCAIXIZHONGZUIZHUYIYANGSHENGDEBAOTANG,YIGUOHAOTANGSHIMANMANAOCHULAIDE,FEICHANGYOUYINGYANG,ERKUAICANWULUNDUOHAOCHIDOUMEIYOUDUOSHAOYINGYANG。YINCIJIAOYUYESHIRUCI,JIAZHANGXIANGKUAISUJIAOYUHAIZI,ZEHAIZIZHANGDAYIHOUSHIRONGYICHUWENTIDE。DANGYUDAOHAIZIFANCUOWUDESHIHOU,KAOSHISHIBAIDESHIHOU,KANBIERENDEHAIZICHENGGONGDESHIHOU,ZHEISHINAIXINDIJIAOYUFEICHANGZHONGYAO。DANGWOMENDEHAIZI“FANDACUO”SHIJIZHUZHEIJIJUHUA:“SHIQINGMEIYOUWOMENXIANGXIANGDENEIYANGYANZHONG”“TIANTABUXIALAI”“MINGTIANZAISHUO”,YOUXIEWENTIHUANSHIJIAN、HUANKONGJIANQUSIKAO,KEYISIKAOCHUGENGJIACHENGSHUDEBANFA,DUIWENTIDEPANDUANGENGJIAZHUNQUE。RUGUOZHEISHIHOUNIXINJI,WANGWANGRONGYISHUOCUOHUAZUOCUOSHI,ZHEIXIECUOHUACUOSHIHUIDUIHAIZIZAOCHENGYANZHONGDEBULIANGYINGXIANG。
SHOUZHIYIYU,BURUSHOUZHIYIYU。YUSHIZHIXIANGFA、XIWANG、MUBIAO,YAORANGHAIZIDUIRENSHENGYONGYUANCHONGMANZHEXIWANGHEMENGXIANG。XINSHANG、BIAOYANG、GULIHAIZI,JIUHUIRANGHAIZILINIYUELAIYUEJIN,YUELAIYUEHUICHENGWEINIXINZHONGLIXIANGDEHAIZI。ZHUMINGJIAOYUGAIGEJIAWEISHUSHENGLAOSHIZAIXIAOYUANLIGUALEYITIAOHENGFU,SHANGMIANXIEZHE“GAOGAOJUQIBIAOYANGDEWUQI”,ZHEISHITADEJIAOYUZHEXUE。ZHIZE、YANLI、MAIYUANZHINENGRANGNIDEHAIZIYUELAIYUEYUANLINI,XINLIZAIZENYANGZHEJI,JIAZHANGHEJIAOSHIYAONAIXIN。JIAZHANGNAIXIN,YUSHIJIUHUIJINGXIAXINLAI。JINGXINYUHAIZITANHUA,YUQIWENHE、TAIDUCIAI,TANHUAKEGUAN,PIPINGJIAOYUGENGJIALIXING。ZHEIZHONGQINGKUANGXIADEJIAOYU,HAIZIZAIGANSHOUDAOFUMUDUIZIYIDEAITONGSHINENGRENSHIDAOZIYIDECUOWU,BINGRENZHENDIGAIZHENG。
YOUCIWOMENRENWEIJIAOYUHAIZIYAOYOUNAIXIN,ZAINAIXINDEJIAOYUZHONGHAIZIRONGYIGANDAONIDEAI。YAOZHIDAO,RANGHAIZIGANSHOUDAONIDEAIBINIAITAGENGZHONGYAO。