HAIZIJIUSHIFUMUDEJINGZI；HAIZISHIJIAOCHULAIDE，BUSHISHUOCHULAIDE；JIAOYUHAIZIZUIJIHUI“JI”。ZAIGUANYUHAIZIJIAOYUZHEIJIANSHIERSHANG，YUNNANSHENGKUNMINGSHIQIDIANXUEXIAODAIXIAOZHANGDEZHEIJITIAOJIANYIZHONGKENERZHUANYE，ZHIDEJIAZHANGYIDU。

建议一 孩子就是父母的镜子，镜子里看到的就是自已。

YIGEYOUXIUDEHAIZI，BEIHOUYOUYIGEHUOZHEJIGEYOUXIUDEJIAZHANGHEJIAOSHI，YIGE“WENTI”HAIZIBEIHOUYOUYIGEHUOJIGEYOU“WENTI”DEJIAZHANGHEJIAOSHI。

WOMENTONGCHANGZAIJIAOYU“WENTI”HAIZISHIBAZHONGDIANFANGZAIHAIZISHENSHANG，QISHIYINGGAIBAZHONGDIANFANGZAIJIAZHANGHEJIAOSHISHENSHANG。YAORANGHAIZIYOUXIU，JIUYAOPEIYANGYOUXIUDEJIAOSHIHEJIAZHANG，MEIYOUYOUXIUDEJIAOSHIHEJIAZHANGSHIBUKENENGPEIYANGCHUYOUXIUDEHAIZIDE。

JIAZHANGYAOYISHIDAO：NIBUSHIPINGWEI，BUSHIGUANZHONG，NIDEHAIZIDE“YOU”YU“BULIANG”SHIYOUNIDEYUANYINYINQIDE。YAOXIANGRANGHAIZICHAOHAODEFANGMIANGAIBIAN，JIAZHANGSHOUXIANYAOCONGGAIBIANZIYIZUOQI。DANGRAN，GEWEIJIAZHANG、MEIWEIJIAOSHIDECHUFADIANDOUSHIHAODE，DOUXIWANGBAHAIZIJIAOYUHAO，ZHIYOUHAOXINJIASHANGHAODEBANFACAINENGBANCHUHAODESHI。YINCI，GEWEIJIAZHANGYAOXUEHUIJIAOYUHAIZIDEHAOBANFA。

建议二 孩子是教出来的，不是说出来的，更不是担心出来的。

YOUDEJIAZHANGRENWEITIANTIANDINGZHUHAIZIYAOHAOHAOXUEXIJIUSHIDUIHAIZIJIAOYULE，ZHEIZHONGGUANNIANJIUSHIBA“SHUO”DANGCHENG“JIAO”。“SHUO”ZHISHIJIAOYUDEZUIZHIJIE、ZUIGANXING、ZUIRONGYIGOUTONGDEYIZHONGFANGFA，DAN“SHUO”JUEBUSHI“JIAO”DEQUANBU，YEBINGBUDAIBIAOSHI“JIAO”。

JIAOSHI、JIAZHANGYIJIQITADEZHANGBEIDOUSHIPINFANDIYONG“SHUO”DEFANGFA，DAOZHIXIAOGUOBUMINGXIAN。SHENJIAOZHONGYUYANJIAO，HAIZIDOUXIWANGZHANGDA，YUANYINJIUSHIXIANGZHANGDACHENGWEIXIANZAIDENI——JIAZHANG。DARENMENRENWEIXUDUOSHIXIAOHAIBUKEYIZUO，ERDARENQUEKEYIZUO，DARENFEICHANGZIYOUBINGQIEYOUTEQUAN，KEYIMEIYOUYUESHU，ZUOZIYIXIANGZUODESHI。JIAZHANGWANGWANGHUIDUIHAIZIDEXUEXIYIJICHENGZHANGDANXINBUYI，ZHEIZHONGDANXINYUANYUKONGJU，DAOZHIJIAZHANGMANGMUDIQIUQUANQIUWEN，HAIZILIKAILEZIYIDESHIXIANFANWEIJIUKAISHIBUFANGXIN。YOUDEJIAZHANGWEILEBURANGZIYIDANXINDESHIQINGFASHENG，FANFUDIJIAODAI、DINGZHU，ZONGRENWEIDUOSHUOZONGSHIHAOYIDIAN，QISHIXIAOGUOSHIDEQIFAN，JIUXIANGSHAOCAISHIRENWEI“YOUDUOBUHUAICAI”，QISHIYOUDUOLEBUDAN“HUAI”CAI，ERQIE“HUAI”SHENTI。

SUIZHESHEHUIDEFAZHANJINBU，JUEDADUOSHUDEJIAZHANGBURUZIYIDEHAIZI。BUFENJIAZHANGBURENTONGZHEIGEGUANDIAN，JUEDEYOUXUDUOHAIZIBURUZIJI。WEISHENMEHUIYOUZHEIZHONGKANFA？

YISHIFUMUJINGCHANGYONGZIYIDEZHANGCHUQUBIHAIZIDEDUANCHU，BIRUZONGJUEDEXIANZAIDEHAIZIMEIYOUZIYIXIAOSHIHOUDECHIKUJINGSHEN，QISHIBUSHIHAIZIMEIYOUCHIKUJINGSHEN，ERSHIMEIYOUCHIKUJIHUI。YINCIWOMENRENWEI，WOMENDANGSHINENGCHIKU，BUSHIYOUCHIKUJINGSHEN，ERSHIMEIYOUTIANCHI。XIANZAIHAIZIBUYUANCHIKU，BUSHIMEIYOUCHIKUJINGSHEN，ERSHIMEIYOUKUCHI。

ERSHIJIAZHANGZONGSHIYIZIYICHENGZHANGDEGUOCHENGLAIPINGPANHAIZI，DANSHI，DUIYUHAIZIJINXIANLEJIEQIYANHEXING，BINGBUZHIDAOTAXINLISUOXIANG，MEIYOUZOUJINHAIZIDEXINLI，WANQUANSHIKAOCAICE，QUPANDUANDE，SUOYINIJUEDEHAIZIBURUNI。

建议三 教育孩子最忌讳“急”。好孩子是家长“熬”出来的，不是急出来的。

JIURUCAIXIZHONGZUIZHUYIYANGSHENGDEBAOTANG，YIGUOHAOTANGSHIMANMANAOCHULAIDE，FEICHANGYOUYINGYANG，ERKUAICANWULUNDUOHAOCHIDOUMEIYOUDUOSHAOYINGYANG。YINCIJIAOYUYESHIRUCI，JIAZHANGXIANGKUAISUJIAOYUHAIZI，ZEHAIZIZHANGDAYIHOUSHIRONGYICHUWENTIDE。DANGYUDAOHAIZIFANCUOWUDESHIHOU，KAOSHISHIBAIDESHIHOU，KANBIERENDEHAIZICHENGGONGDESHIHOU，ZHEISHINAIXINDIJIAOYUFEICHANGZHONGYAO。DANGWOMENDEHAIZI“FANDACUO”SHIJIZHUZHEIJIJUHUA：“SHIQINGMEIYOUWOMENXIANGXIANGDENEIYANGYANZHONG”“TIANTABUXIALAI”“MINGTIANZAISHUO”，YOUXIEWENTIHUANSHIJIAN、HUANKONGJIANQUSIKAO，KEYISIKAOCHUGENGJIACHENGSHUDEBANFA，DUIWENTIDEPANDUANGENGJIAZHUNQUE。RUGUOZHEISHIHOUNIXINJI，WANGWANGRONGYISHUOCUOHUAZUOCUOSHI，ZHEIXIECUOHUACUOSHIHUIDUIHAIZIZAOCHENGYANZHONGDEBULIANGYINGXIANG。

SHOUZHIYIYU，BURUSHOUZHIYIYU。YUSHIZHIXIANGFA、XIWANG、MUBIAO，YAORANGHAIZIDUIRENSHENGYONGYUANCHONGMANZHEXIWANGHEMENGXIANG。XINSHANG、BIAOYANG、GULIHAIZI，JIUHUIRANGHAIZILINIYUELAIYUEJIN，YUELAIYUEHUICHENGWEINIXINZHONGLIXIANGDEHAIZI。ZHUMINGJIAOYUGAIGEJIAWEISHUSHENGLAOSHIZAIXIAOYUANLIGUALEYITIAOHENGFU，SHANGMIANXIEZHE“GAOGAOJUQIBIAOYANGDEWUQI”，ZHEISHITADEJIAOYUZHEXUE。ZHIZE、YANLI、MAIYUANZHINENGRANGNIDEHAIZIYUELAIYUEYUANLINI，XINLIZAIZENYANGZHEJI，JIAZHANGHEJIAOSHIYAONAIXIN。JIAZHANGNAIXIN，YUSHIJIUHUIJINGXIAXINLAI。JINGXINYUHAIZITANHUA，YUQIWENHE、TAIDUCIAI，TANHUAKEGUAN，PIPINGJIAOYUGENGJIALIXING。ZHEIZHONGQINGKUANGXIADEJIAOYU，HAIZIZAIGANSHOUDAOFUMUDUIZIYIDEAITONGSHINENGRENSHIDAOZIYIDECUOWU，BINGRENZHENDIGAIZHENG。

YOUCIWOMENRENWEIJIAOYUHAIZIYAOYOUNAIXIN，ZAINAIXINDEJIAOYUZHONGHAIZIRONGYIGANDAONIDEAI。YAOZHIDAO，RANGHAIZIGANSHOUDAONIDEAIBINIAITAGENGZHONGYAO。